Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Mary Jo Kopechne 1940-1969

Sorry my dear liberal brothers and sisters, I respectfully sit this one out. Women first.

Further, as an alcoholic, I will not mourn a rich drunk allowed to make a deadly mistake and carry on as if nothing had happened.

I will mourn the working woman who was forgotten, as the actual circumstances of her death were covered up by a powerful family, who then arbitrarily assigned her slut status.

Imagine slowly, slowly drowning, water enveloping you inch by inch as you drown, waiting for the person to rescue you that never arrives.

Sorry, folks. Some things, I do not excuse.

Mary Jo represents all the nobody-women killed (or allowed to die, if you want to quibble over my terms) by all the powerful, rich men, because they were "evidence"--because they got in the way.

During this orgy of remembrance and sentimentality, of course, we won't be hearing about her...once again, it will be considered somehow "rude" to mention Mary Jo Kopechne's suspicious and untimely death. Well, let me be RUDE, then, and remind everyone that she existed. That she was a beautiful and lively woman, cherished by family and friends; she was a human being that was considered expendable by the Kennedy clan.

FUCK Ted Kennedy. Purgatory is hot, and he'll be there awhile.

~*~

EDIT (for the person who thinks I "exaggerate")-- Please see above Wikipedia entry, specifically THIS QUOTE (italics mine):

Earlier that morning, two amateur fishermen had seen the overturned car in the water and notified the inhabitants of the nearest cottage to the pond, who called the authorities at around 8:20 am.[14] A diver was sent down and discovered Kopechne's body at around 8:45 am.[15] The diver, John Farrar, later testified at the inquest that Kopechne's body was pressed up in the car in the spot where an air bubble would have formed. He interpreted this to mean that Kopechne had survived for a while after the initial accident in the air bubble, and concluded that
“Had I received a call within five to ten minutes of the accident occurring, and was able, as I was the following morning, to be at the victim's side within twenty-five minutes of receiving the call, in such event there is a strong possibility that she would have been alive on removal from the submerged car."[8]
INCH BY INCH she died. And imagine how horrible, the terror. It probably took several hours, according to all I have read, since the accident happened sometime after MIDNIGHT. Think about it, MIDNIGHT. No phone call to any cops or EMTs, since he was DRUNK and had to SOBER HIS ASS UP FIRST.

I repeat, with considerable emphasis: FUCK TED KENNEDY.

41 comments:

Mama Moretti said...

Daisy - remember the whore's murder in "Godfather II" - "it will be as if she never existed" - I always think of that.

DaisyDeadhead said...

Mama, I'm glad I wrote this... even the feminist blogs are not mentioning her.

Yes, as if she never existed indeed!

((sigh))

Buzzardbilly said...

If you ask me, the spectre of Mary Jo and how she met her untimely demise is what kept Ted from being a viable candidate for President. In a way, she got a measure of revenge even if there is no real justice for what happened to her.

FWIW, I do think that if he hadn't been a part of her death, he probably wouldn't have worked so hard on a lot of good legislation that helped those who are often overlooked by the rich and powerful. Doesn't make her loss worth it in any way, but her loss did leave a legacy from which some good may have sprung for others.

white rabbit said...

Daisy - Mere purgatory puts you on the generous wing! Jailhouse lawyer - http://jailhouselawyersblog.blogspot.com/ - recommends hell and an nasty surprise at the Pearly Gates for EK!

Rootietoot said...

I, too, am not mourning his death. I didn't like him when he was alive, and I won't pretend to be sad he's gone.

JoJo said...

Well, as a native Cape Codder, Ted was known to be a very bad driver. He nearly killed a friend's father back in the 80's, but b/c the guy he hit was also the Kennedy's plumber, a quiet settlement was reached & my friend's dad didn't sue.

As to Mary Jo. I knew a Barnstable County Superior Court Judge back when I worked in TV. He had it on good authority that Ted was not behind the wheel that night. He was not even at the party or on the Vineyard, he did not show up anywhere soaking wet. He was in a hotel in Falmouth. The morning after the accident, 2 wet men were seen entering Ted's hotel room and Ted emerged looking grey and upset. Apparently he was told it would be better in the long run for him to take the blame for the incident. So I have my doubts about who killed Mary Jo.

D. said...

"The evil that men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones. So let it be with Caesar."

I did make note of his death; I did not memorialize him; I have to suspect that most of his public career was in part atonement, but probably not even Henry II's penance (for Becket) would have sufficed.

I am glad you wrote this.

Becs said...

I'm with you, Daisy. I'm sickened by all the words of adoration slopping all over the NY Times comments. It appears commenters are not even allowed to mention her name.

Dominick Dunne had it right.

DaisyDeadhead said...

Jojo, that was the plot of Brian DePalma's movie
BLOWOUT
--always wondered where he got it from. You might enjoy it if you've never seen it. (Warning: It's creepy, violent and John Lithgow is terrifying, not his well-known TV-cuddly self.)

Here is my official follow up, where I announce that I am fed up. (I probably should have waited before writing a second one, but I was too livid.)

As of this writing, I've received three nasty emails about "speaking ill of the dead"--so the rest of you pondering whether to send that shit to me can HOLD YOUR FIRE because I am not deleting this post or the follow-up, either. Revoke my lefty-membership card, if you must.

I was 12 years old when this event happened, and my mother told me to PAY ATTENTION: Rich men get away with everything and poor men are accused of shit they didn't even do. And I DID pay close attention; it was one of the first lessons in class consciousness I ever received.

It was ever thus.

jovan b. said...

I haven't blogged about either of them -- and have no plans to blog about Kennedy now since it is too late -- there are a lot of other events happening around me this weekend in which I have to post about.

It is likely that I will get a post in about Kopechne tomorrow.

~Macarena~ said...

THANK YOU! Isn't "speaking ill of the dead" what the Kennedys and their supporters still do?

My mom said Kopechne was pregnant.

I once found a web site featuring drawings of the crime scene and the one I remember most is of Kopechne in the air pocket.

Buzzardbilly, I don't see revenge: President Obama called Kennedy "the greatest Senator of our time". This post is the first report I've seen to mention Kopechne.

When Kennedy Shriver died, the AP headline read "JFK sister Eunice Kennedy Shriver," but Ted Kennedy gets to be "Mass. Sen. Edward M. Kennedy."

Sungold said...

Don't know if you ever read "Black Water," a short novel by Joyce Carol Oates written from the POV of a young woman whose drunken date has left her to slowly drown in a submerged car. It's one of the most horrifying things I've ever read. Afterward, there was no way I could ever overlook what Ted Kennedy did - and failed to do.

I am sorry for his family. I have empathy for how he went, I have respect for the good things he accomplished in Congress. I just have no patience for hagiography, especially when the man was so deeply flawed.

SnowdropExplodes said...

Sungold:

Joyce Carol Oates wrote about the "incident" and its aftermath today in the UK press.

She writes, "Yet, if one weighs the life of a single young woman against the accomplishments of the man President Obama has called the greatest Democratic senator in history, what is one to think?" She offers no answer to the question, but leaves the reader to figure it out hirself.

AlanSmithee said...

Atonement??? Fuck that. Kennedy never so much as flinched when abusing women suited his purpose. I'll bet you real money Teddy didn't so much as blink when he was fixing his nephew's rape trial.

Anonymous said...

Thank you! I was getting very riled with all the references to Mary Jo Kopechne as a stain, a sketchy past, a tragic mistake, a ghost and so on. She was a real person, and an intelligent, hardworking one by the sound of it.
I don't understand why bloggers think it's their responsibility to write eulogies for establishment figures and dismiss the people who paid so dearly for the success of those public figures. We have the millionaire-owned mainstream media for that.

Anonymous said...

The respects paid to Teddy are really respects paid to wealth and political power, despite his ill repute. It reflects so poorly upon the state of our politics and the values of our time that his passing is being treated with so dignity.

The Bible tells us that vengeance is the Lord's to take. I pray that to be true.

Megan said...

YES. Thank you. I posted something to this effect on my Facebook page the day EK died, and I was slaughtered by everyone, including my super feminist friends. I'm not saying he didn't do a lot of good things in his political life. I'm just saying that we need to acknowledge all of the terrible shit he did, because that is part of him, too.

And to the "Don't speak ill of the dead"-ers: Fuck right off with that noise. Is this 1690 Puritanical backwoods Massachusetts? Shit.

Amy said...

Thanks for writing this Daisy.

Anonymous said...

This blog lies where hate and self-righteousness meet.
So much speculation fueling so much odium. You don't see people for who they are, or who they are trying to be, but how their faults can glorify your causes.
May you accomplish half the things Ted did, and may you never make a mistake which you will regret for the rest of your life.
And you ever do, may you be forgiven.

And, for your own sake, I hope you have an epiphany before you die, where you realize how close minded and counter productive your life has been.

DaisyDeadhead said...

Bishop Sheen! Thought you had died. Did you come back to tote some more water for the Kennedys first?

Anon, we achieve forgiveness by ASKING for it. Not by calling our 'mistakes' by a geographic name, i.e. Chappaquiddick. It is notable Ted never even used her NAME in public after his initial cover-your-ass speech.

And like Ted, I see you have no guts, and won't even sign your name.

Amber Rhea said...

Thank you for this, Daisy.

absurdities said...

I'm in no way looking to defend Ted Kennedy for whatever his role was in Mary Jo Kopechne's death, nor the Kennedy family in general for their historically atrocious treatment of women. That said, I think that the truth probably lies somewhere in between the lovefest that is natural when a person dies and this post.

It's impossible to completely vilify Ted Kennedy. His tireless work in the Senate cannot be disputed.

It's impossible to deify Ted Kennedy. His role in Mary Jo Kopechne's death has never been clear and, at best, he was guilty of concealing the truth. At worst, he was guilty of murder.

I think - I hope - that we can respect and honor parts of his legacy, while criticizing and condemning others.

ginmar said...

Nice to see how black and white everyting is. No dogs or Irishman, no head injuries, nothign but murder pure and simple.

DaisyDeadhead said...

Ginmar, not sure what the reference to "dogs and Irishman" means, and afraid to ask.

As for your nasty comments at Twisty's about being "middle class": I work my ass off in retail, live in an apartment, drive an old Saturn and have no college degree... if you were calling me "middle-class"--you really haven't been paying attention.

ginmar said...

Nasty? Truth hurts, doesn't it? You turn your nose up at Kennedy, but I sure as fuck don't recall seeing choirs of angels fighting to raise the minimum wage, and thanks for making every body who needs that raised feel dirty for not holding up for a perfect angel singing hymns. Nice of you to toss that protection aside once you no longer need it. Meat-free, horse-owning bloggers don't have much in common in me, but that and this was a wee bit too much to take. No feminists have been talking about it? None? Really? I don't know where you've been, but it sure seems like you've been riding fancy horses with Twisty on her ranch.

Excuse me, I have to go kill some more babies now, because everybody knows that's what soldiers do. I wish my life and my morals were as free from compromise as yours seem to be, but then again, you weren't there to offer a hand then, and it seems you aren't here now, either.

Do you think Lovelle Mixon got beat up by the cops, too?

DaisyDeadhead said...

Ginmar: Nasty? Truth hurts, doesn't it? You turn your nose up at Kennedy, but I sure as fuck don't recall seeing choirs of angels fighting to raise the minimum wage, and thanks for making every body who needs that raised feel dirty for not holding up for a perfect angel singing hymns. Nice of you to toss that protection aside once you no longer need it. Meat-free, horse-owning bloggers don't have much in common in me, but that and this was a wee bit too much to take. No feminists have been talking about it? None? Really? I don't know where you've been, but it sure seems like you've been riding fancy horses with Twisty on her ranch.

Excuse me, I have to go kill some more babies now, because everybody knows that's what soldiers do. I wish my life and my morals were as free from compromise as yours seem to be, but then again, you weren't there to offer a hand then, and it seems you aren't here now, either.

Do you think Lovelle Mixon got beat up by the cops, too?


Ginmar, put the booze and the multiple-Rxs down, hon. Or at the very least, do not come around here when you are all hopped up on whatever it is that gets you all hopped up. Not interested, not buying, don't care. Really, I don't.

But I am reprinting your entire "comment" (goofy-ass, nonsensical, thoroughly addled but nonetheless entertaining, self-pitying diatribe) in case you get all gooey and guilty later when you sober up and wanna make up and/or delete a blog post or fifty. This can be an ongoing testament to Ginmar's unique, um, brilliance that gets her banned everywhere.

"Now be gone, before somebody drops a house on you, too!"

peace out said...

ginmar-your sick deranged ass is one of the best arguments against military service anywhere on the net.keep up the good work.

ginmar said...

Fuck you, Daisy, for making fun of somebody with PTSD. If anything, I hate you now more than I did last night. And anonymous? It's 'you're' not your.

Go off to your widdle middle class life now, girls. I'm sure the maid needs to be let in.

ginmar said...

None of the feminist blogs? Oh, aren't we determined to be all special and shiny?

DaisyDeadhead said...

1) I believe "peace" was Bryce, not me. 2) Please go away, Ginmar. I don't want this military-style ambush and I don't deserve it. 3) I won't attack anyone with PTSD unless they attack me first. This vicious attack of yours came out of nowhere. (?) Still stunned, actually. Ren thinks so highly of you. 4) Shit, what happened to my IP blocker? I was trying to handle this peacefully, but of course, some people were trained to act differently... and like obedient androids, they just ATTACK like the little GI Joe wind-up dolls they are.

Admit that's what this is really about, Ginmar, and has SHIT to do with Ted Kennedy. You saw a chance to attack me for what I have said about the military in the past (which you alluded to in your FIRST comment) and you took it. You claim to be radical, but here you are, still defending the military. Well, you're a good and loyal soldier, I'll give you that.

Medal duly given. Now, go home.

Meanie Bryce said...

d-dont feed the troll.remember?

ginmar said...
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HereBeDragons said...

Here via "Womanist Musings." I know this response is quite belated (since school started again this fall, I haven't been keeping up with my blog reading).

Just wanted to say thanks for this. I've always been very conflicted about Ted Kennedy. Yes, he's done wonderful things as a senator, but . . . but . . . BUT . . . really, I have always felt the man should have done time in prison, and it's been a consistent source of irritation for me over the years that the death of Kopechne has been forgotten by so many (or simply ignored).

Anyhow, thanks.

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Simon Tufal said...

If you ask me, the spectre of Mary Jo and how she met her untimely demise is what kept Ted from being a viable candidate for President. In a way, she got a measure of revenge even if there is no real justice for what happened to her. I remember when i was in Bau industriewaagen, i heard about same coincidence.

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