Sunday, February 21, 2010

First Sunday of Lent: Lenten blog break

Stained glass from St Mary's, Greenville, SC: Christ stills the tempest.




In case you all haven't figured out by now, I am taking a blog break for Lent.

I did not initially announce this, because I wasn't sure I could do it. Last year, I tried it and had to break my silence over the death of my favorite author. This year, I thought I would do likewise, when I heard about the death of a well-known American war criminal.* Then I thought, NO, I will not break my Lenten devotions for.... him. I might, though, for something or someone of towering importance. (The official rules are that Lenten devotions are suspended on the Sabbath, so I will try to update you on my spiritual progress every Sunday, if I have anything to say.)

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I need to get centered, and perhaps I need to get my blog-stats way down first, before that can happen. I have been thoroughly confused over various Blogdonia incidents of late (such as being banned at FWD/Forward without explanation), and once again wondering if I belong here, Land of the Ultra-Connected and Always-Trendy Grad Student. Certainly, I am not as smart as ANY of these people. (And they like to tell me so, often.) But I am committed to the idea that even us not-smart people deserve a place to hang out, and deserve to have our say, even if we aren't up to the standard of FWD or similar high-toned blogs.

Does everyone have to be a genius these days? When Dubya was president, the communication standards were much lower! ;)

~*~

I'm also trying to figure out how to talk/write about fat, of all things.

I have usually worried that anything I wrote about fat, fasting and/or calorie restriction had to be very careful not to "pile on" in a fat-hating, fat-hysterical culture. As is the case with disability, it is very difficult to discuss things honestly when dread, misogyny and negativity are the rule. But the fact of the matter is: fat is not good for me. Fat is trashing me. It is indisputable that 50 extra pounds on one's knees and feet (regardless of the source of that weight) are going to be pretty damn rough on that person's knees and feet, especially if they stand/walk all day. I have decided that drastic action is necessary to prolong my working life and my overall bodily health.

In feminist Blogdonia, it is not considered progressive to say anything negative about fat, and I have therefore been very reticent to write this, although I have written about the calorie restriction movement (CRON) and related issues in the past. In a culture that thrives on jokes about the likes of Jessica freaking Simpson being fat (!!!) ...well, this is obviously not a healthy environment to talk about fat. Duly noted and understood. But I am post-menopause and at my highest weight since my pregnancy. This is not good, and I am changing it.

In the process, I have noticed that our culture's negative-obsession with fat has dovetailed with the "personal acceptance" of fat overall. We all weigh more than ever. I remember when Archie Bunker was considered a fat guy, and now... well, go over to TV-LAND and have a look at him. Does he look fat to you?

Our standards have radically changed.

I was regarded as one of the biggest girls in my school. Looking at crowds of kids congregating outside of middle schools now, I am utterly amazed by their average size; that would certainly not be true today. My middle-school-sized self would not even be considered big at all, by today's standards.

Americans are just plain consuming too much. And not just food, but in every respect. Food is only one of many things we plow through at an alarming rate. We use most of the world's oil and other natural resources. We ship our garbage everywhere. As I get more and more involved with the Green Party, these matters are increasingly on my mind.

And I am meditating and praying and will get back to you. I loves you guys! (((weeps)))

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*To the right wing trolls: I will not argue this point with you and will delete all comments defending ALL Nixonian-era mass-murdering swine. Thanks in advance.

54 comments:

Marion said...

Huh! I knew it was Lent that was keeping you away from blogging!

And you are as intelligent as anyone I know, Daisy, anywhere.

It IS age, isn't it, that piles on pounds. I need to lose some fat, as well. As you say, it will be far easier on my knees and feet, both arthritic. Wow. Thanks for the post, Daisy...I'll see you next Sunday.

lilacsigil said...

The problem is not with writing about fat - the problem is with using actual people's bodies as a metaphor about how people are consuming too much and are bad people. Most fat people don't eat more than thin people; being fat has nothing to do with your moral character or environmental friendliness. There's no shortage of fat vegetarians (I was one). Talk about environmental and social conditions that may be leading to more people being fat, but don't point at fat bodies and say "EW! FATTIES! GROSS!" That just encourages blame being put on the individual and diverts responsibility from social, economic and environmental factors, not to mention from misogyny and ablism.

Talking about the stress fat puts on your knees - which is the *only* health condition directly caused by being overweight - is totally fine. Talking about fat people as over-consumers and generally bad people who should eat less to save the world? Not good at all.

JoJo said...

Well, part of the problem is that we're all so sedentary b/c of computers and hi tech gadgets and big screen TVs. Lord knows I need to lose weight but I'm just dog tired. I get up at 6, commute 22 miles to Fircrest, deal with difficult work/clients and commute home. I'm exhausted. The absolute LAST thing I want to do is work out. I definitely don't overeat, ask anyone. But I don't exercise so I don't lose. :(

Good luck on your journey! I keep saying 'one of these days'. Maybe you can be my inspiration. :)

D. said...

Ah. I thought you'd caught the flu.

I am trying to spend less time in front of the computer myself (it's not working) and more time with books. One of the things I picked up was Wilkie Collins' The Woman in White, which my inner editor would like to prune with an axe, so far.

I have let AH pass in silence. Fran Lee, the activist behind pooper-scooper laws, died this week; I haven't memorialized her, but she is not forgotten.

Fat is now so fraught a subject that I'm just going to say Good Luck and have an aerobic exercise and it's your body and when your knees mount a protest, they don't kid around.

Anyone who thinks you're not highly intelligent is a fool (do not get me started on grad students).

John Powers said...

I wish you a good pilgrimage this Lenten season.

I'm all over the Web; you're smart, good writer and you've been experienced.

Exercise is good, but can be really hard on the joints. There are lots of obstacles, still many people enjoy aqua aerobics. Whatever it is you do often something physical is a help. Did you know there's a labyrinth at the Fist Baptist Church?

Peace be with you.

Meowser said...

I remember when Archie Bunker was considered a fat guy, and now... well, go over to TV-LAND and have a look at him. Does he look fat to you?

Standing next to David Schwimmer? Why yes, he bloody well does. A Carroll O'Connor or Ed Asner would not be given a series lead today, as gifted as they were. And TV was never any kind of haven for plus-sized women who weren't the constant butt of jokes. But at least people used to be honest about why they hated us -- ewww, they're so ugly and uncouth. Now people have to pretend they hate us for the sake of our health. Gag.

Here's my position, okay? If you are meant to be a much smaller size than you are, or were, there's not a damn thing that I or anyone else could possibly do to stop you. Nor would I even want to try. The problem is, too many of us who are NOT meant to be that smaller size are under relentless pressure to do something (attain and maintain a much smaller body) that's either physically impossible or would take up so much of our time and energy that we would literally get to do NOTHING else for the rest of our lives but try to hold our weights down. And there's a lot more of us in those categories than almost anyone wants to acknowledge.

Maybe not every fatass is in that boat. But given that fat people are treated like walking garbage, and that so few people have ever lost 50 or 75 or 100 pounds through diet and exercise alone and kept it off permanently that almost anyone who manages to pull it off can get a book deal even if they can't write,
it simply doesn't make sense that most of us could be thin if we only tried a little. If it really was as easy as taking a shower and shaving my legs every morning, fuck yes I'd do it. I don't need all the baseless assumptions.

Did you know that there are over 300 medications that have weight gain as a side effect, most of which weren't around in Archie Bunker's day? It's all well and good to say we should just spit out the pills, then, but I did that, and the results were not pretty. In fact, doing that almost cost me my life. I doubt I'm the only fatass in that particular boat, either.

Also, overconsumption? Really? Surely you know that the fatter someone is, the more likely they are to be poor -- the fatter, the poorer -- and that goes triple for women, probably double triple if they're over 300 pounds. And surely you know that it's rich people who are guilty of most of the "overconsumption" out there. They're the ones who go to restaurants and order ten different dishes and take a bite of each one and throw the rest in the trash practically every goddamn night, while we poor fatties buy a few measly groceries and suck the crumbs out of the package. They're the ones who "need" a new car every year, or more than one, while my poor fat ass hasn't owned a car in years and probably never will again. They're the ones who are always getting on planes to fly places just because they're so important that they MUST be there, or just because they feel like it, while I have to wait until my mom can comp me an airline ticket to go see her every couple of years, and then pray I don't get charged extra for my saddlebags. They're the ones who have to water multiple acres' worth of property to keep all their pretty flowers in bloom, while I make do with rental housing which only sometimes has a few inches of greenspace around it. And so on. Really, I thought you knew all that stuff. I'm rather stunned that you don't.

Lynn Gazis-Sax said...

Fat's always something I avoid blogging about, because, on the one hand, there are some aspects of the whole "fat as a feminist issue" analysis that make sense to me (women's body ideals are set thinner than optimal for health, the BMI charts may not take enough account of what kinds of shifts with age are OK, etc.), but on the other hand, I'm married to a man with diabetes and a heart condition, who's now working on reducing his weight out of rational concern for his health. And people have such strong feelings on this issue.

Best of luck with your knee pain; I have that problem as well (trying to keep it manageable with moderate exercise).

And I wish you the best with your Lenten spiritual disciplines.

white rabbit said...

Ah there you are! I had wpondered about your absence but hadn't thought of Lent.

Someone I know was asked what she had given up for Lent. She replied...

'Sex!'

This mere male is trying to lose some weight too. Heigh ho...

bint alshamsa said...

I've given up salt and I'm not eating any sweets after 7p.m. My daughter has given up negative speech. The German is fasting from sun up to sun down. It may not be perfect, but it's our way of participating in Lent and I figure that's better (for us) than not doing anything at all.

Becky said...

I got distracted by "shaving my legs every morning" - not since the gyn months ago, but I can get away with it since there's no one to notice :)

The main trouble with writing about weight is that then you feel pressured to follow up on it even after procrastination has reared its familiar head.

Post menopause weight is the distinctly unfair kind - I've never exercised really, never been into health foods, but all was well until my hormones got whacked. Nowadays I haven't even bothered replacing the battery in my trendy scale and avoid full length mirrors (which goes hand in hand with hating clothes shopping).

Besides, if you write about fat more will find you via the blog by doing a google search on its name :)

Good luck with all , and I enjoy reading your blog!

Sara Elizabeth said...

I love this blog entry. It's speaks to me and where I am right now.

Since getting off of my butt, leaving the blogosphere hoopla behind, and focusing on being more active, social, and healthy my life has changed SO much.

I am still fat, but less fat than I was 2 months ago!

I let blogging rule my life at one point. I was very lonely and very sedentary. I thank GOD I am not that way anymore.

I still blog, but only once every one to two weeks. Being back out in the real world is still so new to me, but I am loving every minute of it.

Good luck to you! If you need any support regarding the "fat" topic, email me anytime. :)

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Amber Rhea said...

FWD... jeezy creepy. Don't get me started.

thene said...

I have America weight. I weigh more in the USA than I do in Europe, by I guess about 10 or so pounds.

It's the HCFS that gets in everything - the bread that tastes far too sweet to be classed as real bread, the bacon that's hard to find without some kind of sugar-smoked coating - and look at that bacon, always streaky as hell while in the UK what I liked to eat, out of choice, because it had the best flavour and was most useful for my cooking style, was plain back with little fat on it.

It's the tubs of icecream and bags of crisps - sorry, chips - that are far larger than the ones they sell back home. Yes, Americans tend to have about 1 more child per family than white British people do. There are good reasons why everything here is HUGE. But as I don't magically sprout that extra child on my way across the ocean, I end up with America weight.

It's the concept of 'convenience food', which is often anything but. Someone feels hungry, and they suggest leaving their home, or their workplace, to get something to eat that seems cheap until you break down the ingredients and see how little it would have cost to make it at home, and which seems quick until you factor in the commute & the half-hour or hour's pay you put towards buying it. (I'm not getting that hour of my life back). I never went to restaurants in the evening before I lived in America, either - not except on rare & special occasions. It wasn't a normal part of my life back there.

America has less places I need to walk to and way, way more people who tell me 'don't walk around here, it's not safe.' Just as if there weren't negative consequences to not walking!


I'm young and have an active job and two dogs to look after, so that extra America weight is pretty slight for me, but it's there, it's real, I know where it came from and I figure I'm not the only person living in America who is being affected by America in these ways.


I do hope you write about fat when you get back! It'll be interesting, because everything you write about is. <3, and I hope your Lent does you good.

lilacsigil said...

Just dropping in to say that I've enjoyed reading your blog and getting a very different feminist perspective from most blogs, but I'm so disturbed and unhappy about this post and your shocking lack of awareness about class and fat, and fat discrimination, that I'm not going to be reading any more.

All the best to you and your family.

Plain(s)feminist said...

I admit, I got a little defensive and ready to fight when I read some of what you wrote about fat. But then, I got to the end of your post and saw the asterisked comment, and I laughed so hard that I cooled right off. But I'll be back, later, for a fight. See ya then. ;)

Amber Rhea said...

What's w/ the smug comments from people saying they're not going to read your blog anymore, because you said something they didn't like. As if you're supposed to give a shit? As if you're supposed to mold what you write about to what someone else might approve of?

queen emily said...

Yes, I detect some smugness myself. Amber.

DaisyDeadhead said...

Ugh, tried not to look and failed. OTOH, glad I finally wrote this.

Lilacsigil, have a nice life.

Meowser: "A Carroll O'Connor or Ed Asner would not be given a series lead today, as gifted as they were."

Um, ever heard of this very popular, blockbuster TV-show called LOST? Jorge Garcia is *lots bigger* than either O'Connor or Asner, and in fact, is obviously much larger than *any* actor in any TV show in history.

The role of Hurley was even specifically written for him, a total unknown at the time of the show's casting.

When I talk about over-consumption, I am specifically talking about Americans in general and myself in particular. I work in retail, and I see a shocking amount of wasted, unused products every single day. And I refer to every single one of us, who are collectively responsible for the earth. If you are properly recycling everything you use, then of course, I didn't mean you. But most of us can't and most of us are not.

Great comments, thene, as usual.

Meowser: The problem is, too many of us who are NOT meant to be that smaller size are under relentless pressure to do something (attain and maintain a much smaller body) that's either physically impossible or would take up so much of our time and energy that we would literally get to do NOTHING else for the rest of our lives but try to hold our weights down.

But I am writing about MY life, not yours. Your life is now the template for everyone? Speaking of being working class, there is very little pressure on older, southern working class women to lose weight, except from TV. Nobody "pressures" me; I am 52 freaking yrs old. I am no possible-sexpot. My *health* is now my priority, and I am now MAKING it something that I take a lot of time maintaining, exactly as I do my car, my cats or my bedroom rug. I don't mind weight-maintenance taking up my "time and energy" at this point...my kid is grown and I have some time to spare, which is how I could start blogging. But really: What's wrong with that? Did you watch the Olympics? Do you say that about those people, too?: HOW DARE THEY work to have the best bodies so they can win medals in speed skating! Those assholes!!!!!

How is what I am doing any different, except in degree? Is ALL working-out suspect, or only if weight-loss is the goal?

*confused*

Glad you liked it, PF. :)

Meowser said...

But I am writing about MY life, not yours.

Actually, no. You crossed the line from writing about your body, to writing about other people's bodies and what a symbol of waste they are.

I'm not going to say I'll never read you again. But I will think twice about it, knowing that you've secretly considered people like me a scourge this entire time. (And let's face it, if you didn't know me at all except for what I looked like, you'd think I was every bit as much the unwashed fatty as all the other people you disdain. You can't see my recycling bin or the contents of my fridge when I'm walking down the street.)

If you're squicked out by our fat asses to the point you can't be objective about us, you're in the company of billions; just admit it. That has nothing to do with your individual self-care plan, and everything to do with you not heaping judgment on the rest of us. (If the Olympic athletes were thumbing their noses and yelling, "Take that, all you lazy fatasses!" every time they slid down the mountain...yeah, I'd have a big problem with that.)

And probably middle-aged fat women don't get anywhere near the crap about their weight that younger fat women do, because we are no longer considered prey, and a woman who is not prey is mostly invisible. That doesn't mean the women you know don't feel like failures over it. And that doesn't mean they're not heavily squicked out by it when they see it in strangers, as you are.

Furthermore, I stand by my statement that Asner and O'Connor wouldn't be given series leads today, unless it was a Mad Men-esque period piece on basic cable. There's already two or three fat guys on TV already (as opposed to, like, hundreds of thin ones?); no room for any more, especially if they look old. And I await the details on fat female series leads. How many have there ever been in 60 years' worth of TV -- maybe five, none of them debuting within the last 15 years?

DaisyDeadhead said...

Meowser: You crossed the line from writing about your body, to writing about other people's bodies and what a symbol of waste they are.

Okay, where did I say people's bodies were "symbols of waste" (reads back)... quote, please?

As I have said numerous times, nothing gets my Irish up faster than people PUTTING WORDS IN MY MOUTH THAT I DIDN'T FUCKING SAY.

What I believe is that our problems w/modern waste manifests differently in different people's lives. I am getting ready to write about the TV show HOARDERS, since that is another manifestation. Some of us get fat, others hoard, others compulsively shop. (As I said, I am in retail, and I meet compulsive-supplement-shoppers all the time.) This is not about everyone; I specifically mentioned THE WEST, THE USA.

YOU are universalizing this, I am not. (I realize there are fat people in every country of the world. I am not talking about all of them.)

But I will think twice about it, knowing that you've secretly considered people like me a scourge this entire time.

Oh, cut the melodrama. HOW MUCH DO YOU THINK *I* WEIGH? My Aunt Ruth weighed over 350 lbs. My mother, 240, my beloved AA sponsor, WELL OVER 400.

AND THEY ARE ALL GONE, BY THE WAY. FAR TOO SOON, and FAR TOO EARLY. Their deaths were directly brought on by complications of obesity.

My deep grief over the loss of these women I loved so much is one reason I feel the way I do. How fucking dare you. Yes, I'm sure I considered the woman who SAVED MY LIFE to be a "scourge".... fuck you, okay?

I know how she struggled. I know far more than YOU do, actually.

(And let's face it, if you didn't know me at all except for what I looked like, you'd think I was every bit as much the unwashed fatty as all the other people you disdain. You can't see my recycling bin or the contents of my fridge when I'm walking down the street.)

What's funny about the above paragraph: I'm probably lots bigger than you, LOL

If you're squicked out by our fat asses to the point you can't be objective about us, you're in the company of billions;

I am not SQUICKED, I AM IN PAIN. Do you really not understand the difference? Well, walk on your overloaded, stressed knees every day for 8 hours until you're my age, and you'll get it. I am trying to undo DAMAGE, okay?

I do not want to die in my 60s, it's just not enough time. Why do you want me to?

just admit it.

You can go fuck yourself.

So much for my Lenten discipline, and not letting the blog get me all upset. Ha!

That has nothing to do with your individual self-care plan, and everything to do with you not heaping judgment on the rest of us.

Thanks for telling me how I feel and what I think.

Pretty outrageous. Can I come to your blog and tell you what you "really" think and feel? (Oh, that's right, you delete trolls, don't you?)

(If the Olympic athletes were thumbing their noses and yelling, "Take that, all you lazy fatasses!" every time they slid down the mountain...yeah, I'd have a big problem with that.)

What the hell are you talking about? When did I say anything like that?

Since we are busily putting words in mouths, let me ask why you wanted my AA sponsor to die in acute pain at age 64 rather than lose weight? Why did you want her children to be deprived of their mother, you maker-of-orphans!

See, we both can play that rather silly, hyperbolic game.

2b continued...

DaisyDeadhead said...

Meowser: And probably middle-aged fat women don't get anywhere near the crap about their weight that younger fat women do, because we are no longer considered prey, and a woman who is not prey is mostly invisible.

Um, I think I just said that in my last post? Thanks for rephrasing... sometimes I need you smart college-grads to do that for me!

That doesn't mean the women you know don't feel like failures over it. And that doesn't mean they're not heavily squicked out by it when they see it in strangers, as you are.

I do not use the word "squicked"
and think it is ridiculous and trendy, so could you translate? What does it MEAN exactly? I am not "squicked out" by myself. I see myself in the mirror, not bothered. Pain in my knees? Yes. High cholesterol? Yes. Hypothyroidism? Yes. Fear of death? Oh hell yes.

I am not into appearances. YOU obviously are. I don't give a rats ass how people look "walking down the street"--are you serious? Where the hell are you getting these VALUES? Because they AREN'T MINE.

You claim you've read my blog, but you sound like you haven't read a goddamn word of it.

Furthermore, I stand by my statement that Asner and O'Connor wouldn't be given series leads today, unless it was a Mad Men-esque period piece on basic cable. There's already two or three fat guys on TV already (as opposed to, like, hundreds of thin ones?); no room for any more, especially if they look old. And I await the details on fat female series leads. How many have there ever been in 60 years' worth of TV -- maybe five, none of them debuting within the last 15 years?

Of course, women do not have the privileges and status of men. That is why I am a feminist. (Are you preaching feminism to me now, too?) I already knew that, which I guess must kinda surprise you, as dumb as you must believe I am.

BTW, taking responsibility is not the same as TAKING BLAME. I hope you DO know the difference?

If you are going to continue to misread me and put words in my mouth I didn't say, attributing ideas to me that I do not believe, you are no more welcome here than the right wing trolls who say I must hate America if I hated Alexander Haig.

This is not dialogue, this is hateful.

Friends give each other the benefit of the doubt and ask for clarification and/or ongoing argument (check PF's reaction), they don't jump on you like a fucking troll and inform you of what you really mean, while assuring us those Olympians are all terribly fat-positive in comparison to a redneck like me. Uh-huh. Somehow, I doubt it.

Questions: How many over-400-lb friends have you lost? How many over-400-lbs friends who have SAVED YOUR LIFE, have you lost?

Because if you can't answer those questions, I will very politely ask you to go to hell.

DaisyDeadhead said...

Amber, I think the intent is to drive me out of blogging. I am personally attacked almost every time I write honestly about my life. This phenomenon is one of the catalysts for my Lenten blog break, ironically enough. I am pretty fed up with it.

I am thinking I should start moderating all comments. Even so, I would still SEE them, which is the intention of the attackers/trolls, to make me feel bad and discouraging me from writing at all.

They are doing a pretty good job, actually.

Does anyone target male bloggers in such a personal fashion? Just wondered, since I have never seen it. Male bloggers are asked to back up their opinions, provide links and proof, etc. Female bloggers are accused of personal crimes, "meanness" and immorality.

Interesting, huh? I mean, which group has the most power to enforce their world-views?

senchi said...

i agrree they seem to target you. i would start moderating just because they dont deserve a platform for their malcontent bullshit. moewser - no wonder you have no 'time and energy' to devote to health. too busy bitching & moaning & poor-fatty-me-ing all the time. yech. self-pity sux.

JoJo said...

I think a lot of the weight gain we've seen over the course of the last 20 or 25 years is the move towards corn syrup vs. sugar. I'm so pleased that some companies are moving back to using cane or beet sugars in their products, like Ocean Spray. The difference in the taste of the juice is amazing! Plus we are also so much more sedentary. Remember having to get up off the couch to change the channel on the TV? Or getting up and walking to another room to answer the phone? Now we park our fannies at work, at home, in the car/bus/train!

I really don't understand why people come over here and attack you though. I enjoy your blog and you are entitled to your opinions and beliefs. I think the world would be a nicer place if everyone respected each other's opinions.

Peace, out. ;p

Amber Rhea said...

"Amber, I think the intent is to drive me out of blogging."

Too bad their act is transparent as all get-out. How dare anybody say something that doesn't toe the approved party line. How dare we not all agree 100%. If you're not *in*, you better just shut up. Same old story. Boy am I glad I moved my blog.

Amber Rhea said...

"I am personally attacked almost every time I write honestly about my life."

Hoooo boy do I know the feeling. There's a really bizarre kind of abuse going on there and I have yet to understand the motivation. Daisy, I may not always agree w/ everything you write but at least I have the common sense to know that it's your blog and your life, and it's no skin off my neck to take what I like and leave the rest. Plus I don't *expect* to agree w/ everything *anyone* writes! I *learn* from people who write intelligently about things I disagree with.

Plain(s)feminist said...

Daisy,
Wow, this turned out to be a clusterfuck. Yikes.

I didn't intend to participate in dumping on you. There is a lot of research to suggest that fat is not the medical problem that we think it is - that poor diet and a sedentary lifestyle are the culprits and where we should put our focus - and that is really the whole of what I wanted to say in response to your piece. I think this issue is one that is so fraught that it's difficult for folks to come to a friend's place and see anti-fat language, even if you are writing just about your life. Sorry you're feeling beat up in your own space.

Bad Boy Bryce is back from the coast said...

D, start moderating, like last year,. .but u already know what i think.

Amber Rhea said...

Here's something funny. Over at BFP's blog, she is writing about weight, health, exercise, etc. too. She has a post much like yours. And people are cheering her on, telling her she's so brave, thanking her for the post. Funny, huh?

YogaforCynics said...

Having taken my own ten day break from the internet and all sources of news, and, having realized how much I liked not thinking about Sarah Palin or the Tea Partiers for ten days, being rather slow about getting reconnected, I've just now started wondering what happened to ya...and now found out that about the death of Mr. Don't-Know-About-the-Chain-of-Command-So-Think-I'm-President-Now himself. Anway, glad to see you're just taking a break and will eagerly await your return.

By the way, I quit reading blog stats nearly a year ago, and blogging's been a lot more enjoyable since.

mikeb302000 said...

Daisy, I hope you're enjoying your blog break and that it's doing you a lot of good.

I was interested in what you said in one of those recent comments about being personally attacked. On my blog I deal with so much hostility and antagonism, which I invite actually, that I've never wavered in my decision to stay as anonymous as possible. The few personal details I have shared have been the target of vicious personal attacking.

Blue Heron said...

Add me to the list of those that wishes you happiness during your break from blogging. I am heavy and I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks about it but us Y chromosomes might be wired differently. I "weighed in" on the side of poundage this week on my friend Roy Cohen's blog : http://contemplativefitness.wordpress.com/2010/03/12/all-those-little-bullets-the-story-of-slow-death/
On another subject, hope that I am not one of the radical atheists who is giving you trouble - not into belief systems but don't want to hurt anybody...

aileen said...

Hey Daisy, I know you're not updating for Lent, but I thought I'd step by and say I hope you're okay and it's all going well and I hope you have a good Autumn/Spring equinox/Lent/Easter :)

Marion said...

Just thought I'd stop by and wish you a Happy Easter, Daisy, and that I miss you! I look forward to seeing you again soon...

shadocat said...

Daisy,
Happy Easter from me too, and I miss you! Just wanted to let you know I'm having a gastric bypass on 4/14, and you would not believe the flack I'm getting from people. I'm doing this to deal with a lifelong weight problem that will eventually kill me if I don't do something soon. You'd think fols would consider my life more important, but no...

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Surely the Ninth hour has past in SC?:)

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I, too, miss the good ol' days of low communication standards brought on by Dubya, if not his reign, per se. The drinking game possibilities alone...

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alright no arguments no more discussion as the author say.. simply cool article..but ..4get it no debating on this

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Having taken my own ten day break from the internet and all sources of news, and, having realized how much I liked not thinking about Sarah Palin or the Tea Partiers for ten days, being rather slow about getting reconnected, I've just now started wondering what happened to ya...and now found out that about the death of Mr. Don't-Know-About-the-Chain-of-Command-So-Think-I'm-President-Now himself. Anway, glad to see you're just taking a break and will eagerly await your return.

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Lent is a great time to shed a few pounds. Obviously it is also a great time to reflect.

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